01/18/2026
Ever since we received the news about Rexās health, itās been an interesting ride.
The thing about humans is when we are uncomfortable, we will say things that arenāt helpful but we are trying to be helpful.
Because the bottom line is we donāt know what to say.
When people are grieving, it is not their responsibility to ālet me know if you need anything.ā
Like they donāt already have enough on their plate having to learn to live in their new normal that they didnāt ask for.
Iāve said a lot of stupid things in my lifetime, thinking I was being helpful, when infact, I was just uncomfortable not knowing what to say.
Your beliefs are yours & what works for you will not work for everyone nor will it be comforting to someone who is grieving.
Before you say anything try to be understanding and know it is not the right time or place to put your beliefs onto the ones who are grieving.
We mean well, we just donāt always deliver it right.
Anticipatory grief is included in the mix of grieving.
If you donāt know what that is look it up and learn more about it.
We will all at some point in our life grieve the ones we love the most.
Itās a club nobody wants to be apart of.
When you get there, you will understand it and it will suck.
You donāt get over losing them, you arenāt going to be better in a couple of weeks and you certainly wonāt let people know if you need anything.
So letās do our best to read the proverbial room and not say the things that are the least helpful to the ones who need our help the most ā¤ļø
