05/28/2026
Believe it or not, but I was not raised in the kind of place where people laughed at signs, omens, prayers, or the strange weight of someoneās eyes.
I was raised far from city noise ā in a place so small you could almost miss it on a map. A place where my grandmother sewed my clothes for summer camp, where we milked cows, kept animals, baked our own bread, whispered prayers over children, told stories by the stove, jumped over fire in the summer, and tried to see our future husband in Christmas shadows.
So when people ask me if I believe in energy, in the evil eye, in the quiet harm of envyā¦
I have to smile.
Do I believe?
Let me think.
It is in my blood, mixed with the milk of the cow I used to milk as a child.
There are people who do not need to touch anything to disturb it. They come close to your happiness, sit near your fire, look at what you have built, and something shifts. Not always because they are openly cruel. Sometimes they smile. Sometimes they call themselves friends. Sometimes they admire you with their mouth while counting your blessings with their eyes.
And after they leave, the air has to find itself again.
Some time ago, a woman I knew came into my kitchen. My kitchen is not just a kitchen to me. It is my temple. My altar. The place where my hands, my work, my prayers, my exhaustion, and my miracles all live together.
She sat in my work chair. Beside us were the monitors from the security cameras. We were talking normally, kindly, nothing dramatic. Then she looked toward the gate and said she was waiting to see when a car would come in.
And suddenly I noticed it too.
For more than an hour, no customers.
Not one.
Now, of course, a quiet hour in business can happen. And sometimes, honestly, it is a blessing not to run like a madwoman covered in sugar and panic.
But something about that moment felt strange. Heavy. As if someone had stepped into a sacred room wearing shoes covered in mud.
There is a difference between saying, āYour business is doing well,ā and being allowed inside the place where that business breathes.
After she left, little by little, everything returned.
Another time, a man watched me working with a knife. Vegetables, meat, everything fast and clean, the way hands know what to do after years of work.
He said, āYou are so good with a knife. You never even cut yourself.ā
The next day, I cut my finger in the strangest place. The bleeding would not stop properly for days. I had to work wearing a glove.
Coincidence?
Maybe.
But people from my world do not throw away every old wisdom just because modern life learned to pronounce the word coincidence beautifully.
And children⦠children are the most tender place of all.
Keep their happiness close. Keep their peace protected. A bad look, a heavy visit, someone admiring too much, touching too much, asking too much ā and suddenly the child has a fever, falls, cries, sleeps badly, refuses food, or simply becomes not himself.
When I was little, my grandmother would take a raw egg and gently roll it over my forehead while reading a prayer. Then she would throw the egg outside the gate.
And I would sleep.
Maybe it was prayer. Maybe it was love. Maybe it was my grandmotherās hands telling my little body, āYou are safe now.ā
Maybe that is what protection really is.
Love with a ritual around it.
I remember another story from childhood.
My grandfather raised pigs, but not the way people raise animals for money. These were for our family, for our home, for our table. He cared for them beautifully. Fresh alfalfa, millet, warm cooked mash, bread softened with milk. They were not locked away like forgotten things. They ran in the grass. The little piglets played in winter like pink, silly children. They were healthy, bright, almost shining.
My grandfather loved them. Truly loved them.
One day a neighbor passed by, stopped, and stared.
He said, with real admiration, āI have never seen pigs like this. So strong. So beautiful. Like exhibition animals. Are you selling them?ā
My grandfather said no. They were for us.
The next morning, all the pigs were dead.
All of them.
You should have seen my grandfather cry when he buried them on the hill.
So no, I do not laugh at old women who put a pin inside a childās shirt. I do not laugh at blue glass eyes, prayers, salt, smoke, icons, or quiet little rituals passed from one generation to another.
A safety pin hidden on the inside of the clothes? Yes. Pin it. For yourself. For your children. Not for fashion. Not for drama. As a tiny piece of grandmotherās wisdom in a world that forgot how fragile happiness can be.
A brooch can be beautiful. An amulet can be quiet. A prayer can be simple. A closed door can be holy.
Believe it or not.
But guard what is yours.
Your home. Your children. Your work. Your kitchen. Your joy. Your marriage. Your health. Your peace. Your little corner of abundance.
Not everyone needs to sit at your table.
Not everyone needs to enter your kitchen.
Not everyone who smiles should be allowed near the softest parts of your life.
Keep your circle warm, but not wide.
May your home be full.
May your children be protected.
May your work grow without being poisoned by envy.
May every bad eye pass by your door.
May trouble lose your address.
And whoever comes with a sweet mouth and a heavy soulā¦
Send them politely, beautifully, and very far into the garden.
With love to all
Your Chef Oksana
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