Urban Chad

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Grumpa (Chad)
517 Locust Street
Hudson, WI 54016
[email protected]
Keeping my wife's memory alive through our granddaughter, Cocopop, and running the Carol Trainor Memorial Fund
http://paypal.biz/caroltrainormemorial More than just a bistro, we created Urban Olive & Vine to be a place where you can nurture your senses and creativity through great food, fine wine, live music, l

ocal art and merchandise, and events like painting classes with Audrey Martin. Listen to live music, share some small plates with friends, try a local craft beer, or find a quiet corner to relax with a good book over a cup of coffee or tea. Owned and operated by longtime Hudson residents Carol and Chad, we invite you to indulge your senses. At Urban Olive & Vine, we are proud to employ many high school and home-schooled young adults who are actively involved in their communities. In addition to our normal Holiday closures, there are some extra dates that we close for our employees to enjoy:

2025 Dates:
Saturday, October 4th – Hudson High School Homecoming
Thursday November 27th – Thanksgiving Day
Friday, November 28th – Day after Thanksgiving
Wednesday December 24th – Christmas Eve
Thursday December 25th – Christmas Day
Wednesday, December 31st – New Year's Eve

2026 Dates:
Thursday, January 1st – New Year's Day
Saturday, April 25th – Hudson High School Prom
Saturday, July 4th – Fourth of July & Hudson Booster Days Parade
Saturday, August 15th – North Hudson Pepper Fest Parade
(This list is subject to change. We will post more 2026 days by mid-year.)

I posted too many stories already today, so I figured I would just photodump a bunch of pictures from this long long wal...
07/20/2026

I posted too many stories already today, so I figured I would just photodump a bunch of pictures from this long long walk on the backside of Willow River State Park. This was a bad path for my first unknown territory walk.

I shouldn't have done this. I had no idea what I was getting into. I don't even know what I was thinking. I just thought I didn't want to go to the main entrance of the park because I didn't want to deal with the car or pay for the car or buy a year pass. I don't even know how much anything would cost.

What I didn't realize I was getting into is that the side Burkhardt Trailhead entrance, off of River Road, was gonna be this long of a walk. And there's a heck of a lot of downhill. I came upon a lot of stairs that I wasn't about to walk down, because they were so many, and I know that I wouldn't be able to walk back up. I didn't realize till I got to the falls, that that was a bad mood, because the stairs would have saved me a half an hour of walking. The bottom of the stairs is where the bridge over the falls is. I thought I was taking the easy way route.

Anyway this walk is so much longer than I was prepared for and there was nowhere to rest throughout it. I came across 2 benchs, but they were soaking wet from the rain. So basically, when i'm a little sore from walking, I had to just stop and stand which didn't do much besides, let me catch my breath. The reason I'm telling you all this is that when finally got to the falls area, I just sat on the only bench in the shade and didn't care that it was wet. I sat there for a long, long time before I could get up the physical strength to walk back to the car. The trek in took me an hour and a half.

Everything hurts right now and I've yucked up my new shoes because of all the wet and mud. Now I know I'm gonna probably going to get a nice pair of hiking boots, in the same brand, if I'm gonna do this walking thing, I probably need a couple different kinds of shoes depending on the surface.

Am I really gonna expand this walking thing, that I never wanted to do, to all over the place?

Friends of Willow River and Kinnickinnic State Parks, Inc.

07/20/2026

I know you say I don't have to apologize. It's a habit or instinct or ingrained in me because I've always felt this way about any interaction or meeting or situation involving me. I'm sorry to the couple yesterday morning that said hi to me, and I ended up talking to them for 20 or 25 minutes. And I'm really sorry to our neighbors (three doors down from us) who were at Tim's birthday party at Jonesy's last night.

Judy saw me and said hi, and then we start talking. Not being aware my surroundings she stood while we talked for about forty five minutes. We finally sat at a table that cleared up and talked for another 15 minutes or so, until Carl, her husband, sat by us, and then I think we all talked for another hour and a half or more. All I know is that I was there for 5 hours and I talked to them for half of the time.

They were the first people I've talked to, that knew Carol well, for most of her life, and what I would call close to her, that let me sit and talk about her hospitalization, the ICU, her death, my grief, everyone that knew Carol that doesn't communicate with me about her hospitalation her death and how sad I am or need to be or want to be, and everything that all of it has done to me over almost two years now. I have not been able to talk to anyone, that was close to Carol, like this because they all feel uncomfortable, and either don't bring it up or try to push me past it into a happy conversation or get upset with the tone of the conversation. Not mean upset, just emotionally upset. I told them things that I would never say publicly because if we're all being honest, a lot of the things are none of your business. Over the past 22 months or so, all that I've told everyone, how public I've been, is only about 30% of all that happened to Carol, or me, and all it's done to me and my mental and physical self.

So I am sorry to them, but I also thank them so much for letting me talk for 80% of the conversation. It means so much. I blab, and I have no filter, and I have so much stress and anxiety, that I said things that I should not have said that are technically none of your business. But you still listened. And you still it comforted me. 🥰

There is a "community friend" to a lot of people in this town. His name is Tim D. There's a whole bunch of you that know...
07/20/2026

There is a "community friend" to a lot of people in this town. His name is Tim D. There's a whole bunch of you that know him. Mainly because of how nice of a human he is. We met each other over facebook and then met each other in person a few times and became facebook stalking friends over the years. We have kind of lost touch since Carol got sick and died. I saw a post this morning saying he was having a birthday together tonight at Jonesy's Local Bar & Grill and I wanted to go, since I haven't seen him in a while.

Holy cow do I talk a lot. I'll tell you about some of that tomorrow. So many people said hi to me or introduce themselves to me. In the middle of all of that talking, I decided to order some dinner to take home from Katt. She was working her butt off running the entire bar in restaurant tonight. I got my favorite sandwich in the world, the Chicken Carbanara, with Sweet Potato Fries, and I also got my favorite soup in the world. The 5 Cheese Cajun Steak Soup with Texas Toast. These are two of my favorite things to eat ever. Everything here is wonderful, and I've had a lot more menu items, but these are my main go too. Especially if I haven't been here for a while.

I only knew about this get together last minute. Which is why it was easy for me to go. I didn't have to think about it or plan or make a choice or get back to anyone. I found out about it and I just went on an impulse. That's how my brain works in this new unwanted life. If you want me to do anything with you, you can't make me do the mental work. On my own, decisions are very impulsive. If it's with you, then you need to make the decision and tell me when and where to be. I can't do it any other way. My mind will not work any other way. So please don't get upset if it doesn't work out, using any other way. I'm being honest, and I'm assuming that's what we all want when someone is grieving.

Thanks Katt. It was so nice of you to sit down and talk with me. You did such a wonderful job handling all those customers throughout the whole restaurant for that many hours. I know you were there a lot longer than the five hours I was there. I can't believe I was there talking to people for 5 hours straight.

While walking downtown, I ended up having three short conversations and one really long conversations. Two with people t...
07/19/2026

While walking downtown, I ended up having three short conversations and one really long conversations. Two with people that knew me and two with people that hadn't met me in person yet. It was nice, and if i'm honest, I was also down there a long time because I sat more than I walked. I'm just in an off mood today and apparently I needed more rest, and maybe talking, than walking. Sorry to the couple that just stop me to say hi, but got about 20 minutes worth of words.

Anyway, I ended up being downtown for so long (over three hours) that I was a little hungry. Gina, one of the people that stopped to say hi to me, said she was going to Brueske's Bread, so that little ear warm caused me to walk home in that direction. Yes, we ended up running into each other while we were there. I talked to David and Julia for a little bit then then got some Loafli Buns and Pretzel Stogies. One of these days, I'll take home a whole loaf of sourdough.

If you haven't stopped by here yet, you should because everything is wonderful. They are open on nine a m on saturdays and ten a m on sundays. You can walk in, or you can even pre-order a head of time to pick up on Saturdays. Sunday is there a day to relax and sell out of everything and even hang out. In their little bread garden. That means you can hang out with them and get to know them.

I think I might be posting once more today, because someone I know in town (someone a lot of you know), is having a party and I might go. I have to see how I'm doing then. Remember, I'm impulsive, whether i'm deciding where and when to go or there's an invite. Not good at planning ahead.

Brueske's Bread is in downtown Hudson on the corner of 3rd street and Vine street. Only open on Saturdays and Sundays, but open into the early evening. They even have random live music throughout the days. You can sign up to there if you want.

Also, thank you to the guy who pulled his car off to the side of the road well I was walking home just to say hi to me, and thank me for all the my restaurant posts. I was very kind of you.

No video today. I can't think of anything to say out loud because I'm kind of in a off mood and I don't wanna come off a...
07/19/2026

No video today. I can't think of anything to say out loud because I'm kind of in a off mood and I don't wanna come off as bitchy. Several people made me uncomfortable this week, but I'm not allowed to defend my feelings if triggered because it makes them uncomfortable. It's frustrating. Sometimes less words are better. You want us to give ourselves grace? Please give us grace.

People often say insensitive things, even in a caring way, when you're grieving, because they lack empathy, are uncomfortable with intense emotions, or are attempting to relieve their own discomfort. Unfortunately, society expects you to suffer in silence rather than set boundaries, which makes your natural instinct to defend yourself feel unwelcome. This dynamic can feel incredibly isolating. You are entirely justified in your frustration.

Why People Behave This Way

Good Intentions vs. Harm: Well-meaning people may say the "wrong thing" because they are looking for a silver lining or speak impulsively without considering the impact of their words. However, good intentions do not erase the hurt caused.

Discomfort with Grief: Many people simply do not know how to behave around someone who is grieving. Rather than offering a safe space, they avoid the grieving person's feelings or say inappropriate things due to their own awkwardness.

The "Grace" Double Standard: There is an unfair societal expectation that the grieving person must be polite, while others feel a misplaced sense of comfort in crossing the line.

Remember Good Intentions (if applicable): While it doesn't excuse the trigger, recognizing that some people are merely fumbling to connect, can sometimes help detach from the insult.

Provide Feedback: Grievers who give feedback to their support systems feel more supported in the long run buy those who can handle it. You can gently/firmly state, "That comment was hurtful," or "I don't need advice; I just need to be heard," or "I can't just act how you want me to act."

Protect Your Peace: You are not obligated to educate everyone or endure toxic interactions. It is entirely acceptable to limit contact with individuals who invalidate your feelings or try to dictate your grief.

07/18/2026

Okay, so I learned a thing this morning, thanks to Jerry (thank you Jerry). He commented that the video cut me off in the middle of him wanting to hear the rest of what I had to say. I didn't know what happened, so I looked it up and the instagram only posted twenty minutes of my twenty nine minute video. I googled the internet and it said the instagram only allows twenty minute videos

I had no idea, so now so much of what I’ve said for the last week (when these videos have been way too long) has been cut off. I at least got the last ten minutes of today's here because I just had to save the last ten minutes of the video as its own video. Thank you Jerry.

I have one more like that (a really long one) from yesterday that I could post, but I don't wanna do that today when you've already had to listen to me for thirty minutes. Somehow, I need to figure out how to get clips of some of the other ones that are slightly too long into one so I'm not giving you five or six posts of little video clips. A couple of them, I'm just rambling on, so, it doesn't matter, but there's a few where I was still venting what was on my mind and nobody got to hear it. I'll try to figure something out.

Maybe this means I'm not recording my too talkative self at some point this week. Maybe I'll show old short clips instead.

Now I have to figure out how to shut up and cut myself off before twenty minutes is up. Ugh.

07/18/2026

Sorry, I'm not gonna make you read too much today. Maybe one of the solutions to me talking way too darn much is to not do it every single day. I'm not gonna just learn to cut myself off. I'm not gonna learn how to shortened my conversations and only talk about relevant things. I just don't know how to do that. So maybe on a day where i'm not sure what to talk about.I just don't. I'm not even sure that method'll work.

Thank you to those of you that do listen and do say that they like me talking or comforted by me talking. I appreciate that. I do like the concept of helping others or making others feel good.

69° out here this morning by the way. That's made the walk a little nicer so far.

EDIT- thanks to Jerry, I realized my mistake and attempted to fix it. I just posted another video with the last eleven minutes that was cut off of the video this morning.

I don't know if the correct term is that I'm working up to try to get out of the house more or that each situation is se...
07/17/2026

I don't know if the correct term is that I'm working up to try to get out of the house more or that each situation is separate and I’m just impulsively getting out of the house once in a while. It hasn't happened over the last several months. The leaving the house thing. I would obviously like to get out more, especially to promote others, but I don't have any type of plan or timeline. If I do, I just do.

Today was one of those days.

I left the house so last minute, to come to C**n Rapids to get the touch up, that didn't think I would do anything else. Well, I decided I should eat at a neighborhood restaurant while I'm here. That restaurant is The Barrel House C**n Rapids, and it is right next door to the Red Lotus Tattoo Shop. I actually found out that the owners of the restaurant are the landlords of the tattoo shop.

I walked in to not knowing if I should eat in the dining room or the bar and
Keionna said I could eat wherever I wanted and Austin said I could sit wherever I wanted. So I picked their dining room, and I sat in a corner booth. Why wouldn't I sit where they're working, since they were so inviting. So nice.

Because I don't know when I'll be out here next and I don't know if I'll come here to eat on that particular visit (since I like to spread the love), I wanted to get two things. And they both happen to be named after them.

I ordered The Barrel House Supreme Sampler - an assortment of golden jumbo chicken strips, mozzarella sticks, mini tacos, and onion rings. Served with your choice of dipping sauce. I also got The Barrel House Burger - Angus beef with a layer of crisp golden hash browns, applewood smoked bacon, mayo & American cheese. Topped off with an over medium egg. I know it's a lot of food, but you know, I like to take pictures of multiple things.

Thank you Keionna (coolest name ever). You are one of the cheeriest happiest servers ever. Everything was great (specially that burger and those chicken tenders) and you an Austin were awesome team. Sorry I didn't say bye, you were busy with another table.

I drove all the way to Red Lotus Tattoo in C**n Rapids today, on an impulse, to see Jewels, Keelee, and Chance. It's bee...
07/17/2026

I drove all the way to Red Lotus Tattoo in C**n Rapids today, on an impulse, to see Jewels, Keelee, and Chance. It's been a long time since i've seen them since they moved on from Rivertown Tattoo in Hudson. Plus I needed one more, of a few touch-ups, on one of my tattoos, from Jewels.

The impulse explanation. I'm sitting on the couch in carroll's living room after I went from my walk this morning. Morgan came downstairs and out of nowhere and said, "when are you getting another tattoo?". I said, I don't know, I guess I haven't thought about it. I told him I can't get another tattoo until I get touch ups on my last three big ones. So I texted Jewels at and asked if she and Keelee were working today. I said maybe I'll come over. She said I should, because Chance is here too.

"Wait what?" I haven't seen Chance since she left rivertown about eight months ago. He did one of my smaller tattoos during his time.There and i've always wanted to talk to him about another tattoo, but I never got to any of the other shops he was at. So I drove here thinking that I was gonna see three of the people that I used to see quite often in hudson. I didn't realize until I walked in, that this was actually chance's first day here at this shop. What kind of weird coincidence is that. My son puts an earworm in my head, and then I text Jewels and come here, and it happens to be Chance's first day at the shop. Ha.

Anyway, Jewels touched up the colored stones on Carol's mother's ring tattoo. This is phase one of this touchup phase. Phase two is gonna be her whitening up the opal on this ring and the diamond on Carol's wedding ring tattoo. So next day, I come here and then eventually leave all the stone should be nice and bright and pop out.

Most of you know, from keeping up with me, that I haven't really been going out in about for the past five months. I only started going on walks and posting about that less than a month ago. So the visit the a couple restaurants lately and now this shop is the most I've done since a month before the anniversary of Carol's death.

I'm trying. I want to do a little more, but I never know if I'm gonna do, until I do it.

07/17/2026

I am so so sorry, and please don't say it's okay, because it's not. These videos are way way too long. I talk so darn much and so darn often that I'm probably losing people because they don't want to hear or read about anything I say because it's just too much and too long.

I'm so sorry that I don't know how to organize my thoughts and make them come out in a better, shorter way. I don't know how to plan. I don't know how to write. I don't know what i'm doing. I'm not going to make an outline or start deciding ahead of time, what I'm gonna say, and how long I'm gonna say it. That would be the fakest thing I could ever do, and I don't know how to be fake. I just know how to spill the words out of my mouth without any thought process behind it.

The problem is, is that if I was fake and planned everything out and outlined it, and made a 3 minute video every day more people would see it and maybe pay attention and maybe comment. But then again, I would only get three percent of my thoughts out so I would never be saying all the things that I need to say. I never think ahead of time that. I need to say these things in the moment, if the words are coming out, I think I need to say them.

I don't know how, and I refuse, to plan all these things out so I sound like a book or a professional or an adult. I just say what pops into my head. The downfall from that is that less and less people pay attention to what I have to say. Maybe the amount of people that here and reed doesn't matter. Maybe it's the amount of people that it touches and feel comfortable commenting or opening up about their grief is what's important.

In the beginning, it was hard for me to hear about other people's grief. But now I like hearing it and reading it. Because that tells me that you are somehow comfortable with opening up to me. Especially when you say it publicly for everyone else to read to. That takes courage. I'm somehow okay with myself being a part of that.

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