10/29/2026
This cup used to be a nuisance......
For years now, this cup has sat on my kitchen counter just about every single day. His favorite cup.
My husband’s thought process was, “𝘐’𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘳, 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘩 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘩.”
Meanwhile, there I was washing dishes, and my OCD tendencies were staring at that cup like, “Seriously? You couldn’t just put it in the dishwasher or drop it right here in the sink?” 😂
Of course, it did get washed sometimes. But then it would come right back to the counter, filled with something to drink as soon as it landed in the dish drainer. So, in my mind, I was in a constant internal battle with this cup.🫨
But earlier this week, we passed the 15-year mark of our marriage, and somewhere along the way, my perspective changed.
𝐍𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐮𝐩 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠.
Because I’ve come to realize, in my own marital maturity, that the cup means he’s HERE.
I can see him sitting in his favorite spot in the living room from where I stand at the kitchen sink. I can hear his voice (and his couch snoring 😅). I can even smell him because his favorite cologne is still lingering in the air. And yes, I know that sounds a little crazy, but I’m okay with it. ❤️
So now, I WANT the cup on the kitchen counter.
I want the dishes beside it. I want the clutter. I want the everyday routines. I want all the little things I once thought were annoying, because they remind me that he is here, sharing this life with me.
So, ladies, I say all of this to say: 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐟𝐟. Even though you might want to "debate" it.😉
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐰𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐰. Time passes, and we can’t control it. But we can choose to appreciate the ordinary moments while we’re living them.
Make everyday count in your marriage. Love each other through the messy kitchens, the cups on the counter, and all the little habits that make a house feel like home.
And if you see this cup on my counter, please leave it right where it is. It belongs there. 💕
Go Dogs!!🐾💕
